Now that Halloween is behind us and the holidays are quickly approaching, I have been thinking about how to be more present with my family and friends. We all are pulled in so many directions with obligations that we put upon ourselves as well as the ones we just can’t avoid. I know I try very hard to multitask and often find it makes me less efficient, sometimes confusing being “busy” with being productive. That can happen at work or home.

I recently had an awesome opportunity to be front row at a private concert with Sheryl Crow. It was an incredible moment to truly be so close I could have touched her sparkly cowboy boots! She and her band put on a phenomenal show and she sang her heart out. The part that got me thinking about being present was the very nice lady next to me who couldn’t stop taking pictures, videos and Facebooking. There were multiple still and video selfies where she turned around and took pictures with “her and Sheryl” and then looked down to post on social media.

Even though I am a hardcore iPhone user myself I felt a little embarrassed for her as it was, in my opinion, a bit rude as it continued for most of the show. Being right next to her it took away from my experience and I couldn’t help but feel sad that she was missing the moment in her attempt to preserve the moment later from a photo or video.

It made me realize that sometimes I have been guilty of becoming so immersed in our new technologies that I miss the actual moment I am

supposed to be living, whether with Sheryl Crow, at sporting event, or simply being with family. The memories live on in our minds and, while I did take a couple of photos and a short video, I feel the experience was rich and I needed to soak it in with my own eyes. I learned something that night and my “moment with Sheryl Crow” will always be there in my memories.

My new commitment…

Because of this experience I have committed to not watch my son’s holiday performances through my iPhone, but rather through my eyes and my heart while watching what he does on stage. I have committed to enjoying my family at the holidays with of course some great fun pictures, but not in a way that takes away from the real memories versus the ones that are “Facebook worthy”. I have committed to being present and in the moment and will remind myself how important this particular moment is, as I can’t get it back even with a photo.

The memory is the moment and I will commit to being present. I share these thoughts with you because I think many of us let moments get away from us as we try to capture them with technology. Here’s to you and your family during the holiday season and to being present!


Yvette Clermont